Adventures in Emmieland

The last few days have been busy doing what I couldn't even say, just busy. After everyone has recovered from the revelling next week we are getting into high moving mode. There are more crates to be purchased and the truck to rent before the 15th so stuff to get done. Hopefully it will keep me busy enough to not be moping since Das goes back to work Monday. Since today is a good day for reflection being the last day of the year and all I've taken a few minutes to go over this year. It was probably one of the most difficult years I've ever had and yet I have to say I've never been happier. Even with all the stuff going on this year has brought a level of contentment I hope continues to grow. I'm already in bed so it's doubtful I'll be awake at midnight but I'm ok with that. If I am I'll toast it in with my watermelon soda and cherry crumble. It's way more appealing than black eyed peas and chitlins. One think I'm going to see if I can g...

We've returned from spending a couple of days with Das' parents. We were only going to stay over 1 night until they talked us into staying the next night and going to mass with them. Funny that it was his mom's suggestion and she's not even catholic. We had a really good time with them and man that sherry trifle was worth the near hangover :) I'm glad that we've had such positive interactions with them. Of course today we are dog tired, there will be some sleep inducing tea in my near future.

There was a post on fet that caught my eye about master's control over stuff and definitions of TPE. One master tried to clarify by saying that his original answer included many women who serve him in different capacities which accounts for the differing levels of control he has over them. That he has multiple dynamics makes sense to me but what doesn't is why he would answer questions in this group which is dedicated to M/s which includes TPE & CNC in a way that included his relationships that did not fit the scope of the group? Does he consider all of them slaves? And if he does how does he then differentiate slave, sub, bottom? Someone else brought up the idea that it's not what is directly controlled by the master but the idea that nothing is beyond the master's control if he wanted to control it, is what makes TPE in her mind brought forth a new slew of ideas, opinions and dissent among the group.

  So here we have the results of last night's beauty shop session. The red is hard to see except up close in the right light but more importantly you can no longer so squiggles of grey imitating a great deal of lint.

I have successfully colored my hair. I'm all for going grey, I think grey locs are quite attractive but I suck at the whole waiting for them to actually become more grey than not. What I currently have is just enough strands to look like lint so I convinced Das that that was simply not a good thing and he let me dye them dark reddish brown. Not that you can really tell since it's pretty close to my natural color except in the grey parts, looks like dark brown hair with red highlights which is how my hair has looked my whole life. Pictures will have to wait since it's already gone dark and all the flash I can find is still not bringing out a clear picture. Up side of landlord controlled heat is I'm warm. :) It's 4 degrees outside but in here it's toasty. I'll miss guaranteed warmth when we move, then it will be back to Das' idea of warm. I've gotten a card from both our building concierges which is really sweet of them. The night/weekend person to...

December is going by both super fast and super slow. Das said he is experience boredom b/c we have finished one stage but not properly started the other.  I don't feel bored, I feel restless. I've gotten as much done as I can while waiting on others to give me info/do their part. Next week we put the puppy into daycare and go visit parents for two days. I'm bouncy yet nervous although I know his parents are cool with me I still feel a bit edgy around them. Holiday season kinda sucks, I miss my kids.

Crazy dreams last night about sabotaged marriage bots and dragons. If I could remember it all I swear it would be an awesome sci-fi flick. Today has found me in the grips of a migraine so asleep for a good deal of the day. But still feeling better than I did Friday/Saturday so it's all good.

I was awake by 7am and mostly able to have a reasonable conversation so of course a friend and I were talking sex and birth control. She informed me that Medicare (which she qualified for during several of her unusual for this part of the worl number of pregnancies, does not cover any birth control outside of pills. Mind you this woman couldn't take the pills and without aid could not afford bc at all hence the several more than is customary for this part of the world number of children. I can't help but thinking whoever put this policy in place has never actually completed an economics class. Talk about short sighted, sheesh.

I've been sick since Friday with my sweet pup sleeping at my feet protecting me. No wonder people like dogs.

Today or I guess yesterday the puppy got a mostly clean bill of health. Other than that it was a quiet day, well at least it would have been quiet if they hadn't been doing demolition on the 9th floor which was so loud you could feel it through the walls. It's been going on for several days and Das and I both have non stop headaches. I'm starting to invent things that must be done away from home just to get a bit of relief. Went to a presentation on divorce and the annulment process given by a priest who works for the marriage tribunal in Toronto. He's married which I learned as a Byzantine priest is perfectly ok. Personally I think having a married priest on the tribunal adds something that most priest wouldn't have, an intimate understanding of the intricacies of marriage. Nothing like hands on experience. He was very sympathetic to most who want annulments and quite pro the changes recently made that make the process easier which was a nice change from the grum...

Once again my French lessons have been abandoned. I need us to hurry up, move and get situated so that I have the energy to concentrate and the privacy to sound terrible while working aloud. I think in general Das and I could inhabit a one room place and be good but I wonder how true that is. We both like things that are noisy and he dislikes me wearing headphones and sometimes I try to get away from the loudness of music when it's hitting an odd note in my head. We do however sit for hours in silence in the same room happily so I don't think I'll be requesting my own set of rooms just yet. Just a corner in the den.

Moving commences this weekend, so why haven't I started packing? Ever have so much to do that the very idea of starting makes you tired, that's where I am. Tomorrow, tomorrow I will buy some plastic bins for the stuff I plan to leave stored a while and start packing it. I talked to another friend tonight who says her M/s relationship was abusive. I think it can be nearly impossible from the outside to say because some of what we do anyone would call abusive so the question becomes the experience of the people in the relationship. My question though is can only one person say it was and that makes it so? What if one person simply sees it as the way that type of dynamic is run while the other sees it as too controlling and cruel then who is right? It's that kind of conundrum that makes M/s so touchy because no matter which side you are on the potential to be hurt is huge. But the rewards in my opinion at least, are totally worth it.