Adventures in Emmieland

You're never too old for pigtails and hair bows. Funny how they immediately lift my spirits. The shipment of twenty pair of bows means I can match every outfit now.  I was looking up style stuff today and saw several recommendations for Torrid. I'm at that annoying too big too small size where straight size aren't quite right but plus sizes are too big. I checked out their website and have to say the clothes look cute and the prices are not panic inducing. The eternal search for cute clothes marched on. One thing I noticed was all the varying plus size models I was looking at had small arms. This sucks because one place I hold fat is my arms. There is little worse than getting a properly sized top or dress just to be sausages sleeved or worse unable to get into the sleeves at all. I swear I've been contemplating sleeveless everything with a collection of hoodies and cardigans. Not practical but not nearly as frustrating as being constantly thwarted by too small sleeves....

I had a thought, dangerous I know. I was thinking about how I've heard some black people disparaging other black people for saying they have Indian in their family. The idea seems to be that unless you only claim african ancestry then you are seeking to distance yourself from your roots and be "not ALL black"  And in some cases that may well be the case. In other though not so much. It occurred to me today though that in at least some case (if not the majority) it's not a desire to remove traces of Africa so much as it is to have a claim to a culture and history they can know. I will never know where in Africa my ancestors came from but I know my grandfather was Lumbee/Cherokee and my grandmother Blackfoot/West Indian. The Lumbee, Cherokee, and Blackfoot have rich histories and cultures that have not been completely eradicated that I can learn about/participate in and through that connection I am connected with a tribe that encompasses more than my immediate family....

I read parenting stuff and with that comes inevitable articles on the necessity of spanking. I just don't get it, I've never gotten it. It makes no sense to me especially if you tell the same people who are advocating it that the next time they fail to follow a rule at work or upset someone in management then they have to be reprimanded with a spanking. They would be all kinds of incensed and yet so no reason for them to not hit a child for not following a rule or upsetting them. It's not that I think all (or even most) parents who spank are willful abusers, however I do think that there is a severe lack in their ability to see children as people in their own right who should be treated with respect. In other (happier) news I got the best birthday gift on my son's birthday, he called me and we talked for over an hr. I wish I could visit him but not possible right now but he has said he plans to come see me which has me downright giddy. I'm so glad he's doing...

The munch was a success, lots of silly conversation and met a few nice people. I am not really all that antsy to go to a party, public playing has never been our thing anyway but meeting people in the scene is nice. I've been taking advantage of my pedometer in my phone and trying to increase my daily steps. Right now I think 10,000 would be seriously unattainable so my goal is 5k, so far i'm up to 3k a day. I love the warmer but not unbearably hot weather we've been having since it lends itself to being outdoors. Looking at the I have no idea what it's called at the front of the house with flowers in it, I've decided to do a bit of gardening. Definitely getting gloves because if I touch a worm I'm sure the neighbors a mile away would hear my screams. I'm such a wuss. I'm finding photoshop apps way easier to use on my phone. I'm sure they don't do as much but I don't need that much and I'll take simplicity over a million functions I...

We never made it to the wildlife festival yesterday. Instead our resident escape artist decided he should take down a couple of cyclist. Luckily he eventually ended up with the same neighbors who harbored him before. One bad thing about a tracking dog, they get seriously focused on something and there is no stoppinhg them. Tonight we did make it to the munch, yay! Our first toe dip into kinky waters here. I had a good time, small gathering , lots of silliness and the food was ok (ish)  sadly I've heard rumor that the dessert menu leaves a lot to be desired. Maybe they will find someplace else to hold it that has yummy treats. I wonder if it would be rude to suggest moving just so that I can enjoy dessert? I'm wired/tired from socializing. It has been way too long so I was practically jumping around in my seat but coming down now. Soon there shall be sleep. Took more pictures of flowers today, Das says they are tulips. I'm glad someone planted them as they are quite pr...

We went to a techno the last night. I still haven't figured out the dancing that goes with that music but it was fun anyway and any excuse to have fun dressing up I will take!  Yesterday afternoon I played with my camera taking random shots of the yard and myself. It's so relaxing but also tiring as proved by my three hour nap afterwards.  This week I had curls again. They mostly dried but I had to take them down after a day and a half, where is a hood dryer when you need one?  Today we are maybe going to a wildlife festival. Seems appropriate since we do live in a wildlife conservation reserve after all. More fun!!

I get a kick out of fet discussions. It's a good thing no one can actually see me rolling my eyes over some of the stuff I read. Today the winner of the eye roll was a post about whether or not a slave would perform sexually with someone of the same sex if ordered assuming said slave is straight. While I expected some people to say no or my master would never ask that of me, I did not expect the several comments that contained a fair amount of vitriol. Ok it's not your thing I get that but seriously saying someone would have to put a gun to your head or stating that you'd barf on the other person seems a wee bit extreme. Of course there was also someone who called a master an idiot if he forced sex. Sex with a girl isn't my thing either but I would and have done it at Das' behest. While I can't say I was in the throes of passion I had an ok time and made sure the person I was with enjoyed herself. The person who said she'd barf made me think about how ne...

Reading yet another fet post about being public with M/s the conversation quickly went downhill talking about sex in stores and obvious loud secreting orgasms in public. The original post/question very clearly stated that they were asking about M/s and nothing illegal. Sex in public is illegal therefore not the type of thing they were asking about. Someone asked why is it that all these conversations seem to go straight for public sex and leashes? I think that's a damned good question. When I think about things that display M/s publically I think of things like master ordering for slave (or vice versa) slave waiting to eat until after getting permission, slave walking beside, behind in front of master, master being deferred to by slave. in other words my musings don't go right down sex alley. What is with the hating on leashes anyway. While I have no desire to be walked on one other than a quick glance I don't give a hoot when I see others rolling like that. Now there...

I came across a post on fet about the ethics of a master making a vegetarian slave eat meat. For the most part people commented about being sure of compatibility before committing to an M/s dynamic and a few people made remarks to the effect of they wouldn't be with someone who was such a jerk that they would do that to them. For me it's a bit different. Yes I want a high level of compatibility but on the other hand while I hate doing stuff I don't like I also need to know that he would if he wanted to. It re enforces the feeling of being granted privileges not just having my way even on things important to me. As it happens I don't like meat, I'm not vegetarian or vegan I simply don't care for the taste of meat generally. Since being with him Das has on more than one occasion made me eat steaks. At the time I was highly annoyed to say the least but I was also comforted. He's made me learn to drink alcohol socially, go to wine tasting (i really don't...

I read the first four books in a kink series and enjoyed it. Most of the time I think the depiction of the submissives and/or the doms is too farfetched for me to get into the story but these books have good if somewhat improbable at times, storylines going that weave in the kink and the various doms/subs aren't interchangeable. So far no one has opted for M/s but it has been mentioned and not in the "those people are crazy" way.  It almost makes me want to try my hand at a kinky story but then I remember that I can't write a sex scene to save my life. Why I can't write about things I'm perfectly willing to do doesn't really make sense but at least I'm consistent. While I am actually doing the things the hardest part for me is talking. The dialog in my head is super hot but sadly it rarely makes it out of my mouth without massive prodding and double doses of self consciousness. Of course while I'm bemoaning my inability to talk dirty I think Das ...