Over involved

In a discussion with someone this morning it came to my mind that I was over involved with the issues between my ex and his ex when they really weren't my issues. 

I don't like conflict and I don't like displays of anger so I fell into trying to be the between person for them because generally she was more polite to me than him and when he did see her it usually ended up with him storming around the house. In my desire to avoid the storming I set myself up for all kinds of angst, worrying if in our meeting she if would be nice, if the kids would behave basically letting ever possible negative turn things could take eat me up. 

Funny that we have been apart for a good while but I am only just realizing this. Obviously trying to avoid conflict and keep my home peaceful at the cost of my personal peace was not a great long term plan and thankfully one I haven't  felt pressed to employ again. Lesson of the day, don't take on other peoples shit.