Adventures in Emmieland

I've been reading an autobiographical novel, it's actually a 7 book series about a woman's childhood and adulthood. One thing that has me intrigued is how despite her being practically continually abused by her parents no one believes her. Her mother is such a successful liar and has gone out of her way to paint her as a liar and violent so that multiple teachers, social workers, doctors, and a child pdoc refuse to give any credence to her allegations. It's one of those situations that you have to believe because fiction wouldn't be so outrageous. One thing that makes my brain hurt is how easy it is for supposedly informed professionals to be manipulated. It makes one wonder just how often children's pleas for help go not only unanswered by fault of ignorance but willfully ignored because it doesn't fit the image or idealistic view of either the family situation or specific people. From what I've seen although people by and large are quick to condem ch...

Not sure why I woke up thinking about a fancy-ish restaurant back in J-ville but I did. I loved it when we went there for brunch on the weekends, a rare treat for a family of six on one modest income. They had food I'd never heard of  and sadly the names evade me. Maybe one day it will come back so that I can find them in the real world. That place holds a special memory for me too, I had my first date there. When I was 18 the man (he was 30 so fully qualified as a man) I was engaged to took me out on our first date. He had officially asked my parents if he could marry me when I was sixteen but he'd been telling me I was his God sent mate since I was twelve. A story for another day. Anyway it trips me out now that my first date was at eighteen after graduating high school. Nothing like making it to young adulthood completely clueless about social interactions in the world of romance. Funnily enough I don't remember much of the date besides me being giddy and worried tha...

Pain management or mismanagement as the case may be seems to be an often overlooked influence on the opioid crisis happening in the state currently. People in pain want to feel better but due to pharmaceutical company pressures combined with worries of dependency/addiction a bunch of drs will prescribe stuff that is not effective. There is also a social component, in the states wanting pain relief is somehow looked upon is immoral and/wimpish. Even when given proper medications to alleviate pain people take them joy when they are in unbearable pain instead of maintains a steady level through the day so that their pain never gets that bad. While met (I hope) drs do tell their patients to take whatever pain relief is prescribed at regular intervals it's not unreasonable to see why patients aren't compliant when the dr also is telling you that the drugs they are giving you have high rates of addiction. Nobody wants to chance becoming an addict and more importantly nobody wants oth...

On FB someone posted the question of when women first start having men notice them sexually. I was curious so I read through around sixty comments, by the time I was finished something struck me. A large number of the women who responded also added in that they had bold, were tall for their age, went through early puberty in and of itself that info wasn't interesting to me, however what did catch my attention was that even though the question only asked for an age, so many people gave the age along with a provision. I doubt anyone was doing it intentionally but it felt like they were giving the men an excuse. While it's hard to fathom a pre pubescent kid envoking an erotic reaction from an adult the fact that the child had some attributes of an adult, even a young one made it if not ok then at least understandable. It occurs to me that while we spend a lot of time both critiqueing and criticing our society we aren't always aware of we ourself acting in accordance with the...

I was thinking today about some of the more conservative/religious people I've known. They never saw the irony in taking a firm stance against children being exposed to violence in games or movies and yet they also are loud advocates of spank. So kids shouldn't see violence but it's ok for them to experience it. Makes perfect sense, right?