We all change
I wonder why in discussions about potential changes that may occur over time in a master the first thing that comes up are denials of people's masters harming them or going insane or going from mono to poly. And of course there is the obligatory qualifier given of having known the master in question very well before becoming their slave. There seems to be a mistaken assumption that change equals something negative and something that can be avoided by an appropriate amount of knowledge.
Change is inevitable given enough time and it doesn't have to be anything huge or distressing just something different. I don't think in M/s that it has to be a horrible thing. It could be daunting if a slave believes that the Master she submitted to is going to remain exactly the same in every way forevermore. That is an unrealistic and unfair expectation. Masters change, sometimes in tiny ways like they decide they lose their taste for vanilla ice cream and have a lower tolerance for alcohol as the years pass. That doesn't have much direct effect on the slave, unless of course she loves vanilla ice cream and he forbids it since he no longer likes it. Other changes can be more difficult to adjust to such as a desire to do something different professionally, a shift in relationship styles such as mono to poly or poly to mono, they may become more or less introverted, a desire to be around family, anything really.
I think it's easy to minimize the actual impact various changes can have on the dynamic because they aren't thought about as M/s things. If it's not about sex, overt control, or bdsm in some manner then the implications of personal changes in one's master aren't immediately clear unless one has lived through them. Even for those who are adamant about how M/s is not about sex and play but the relationship structure they prefer, don't always think through the way the "vanilla" things about their masters influence their dynamic.
Change is inevitable given enough time and it doesn't have to be anything huge or distressing just something different. I don't think in M/s that it has to be a horrible thing. It could be daunting if a slave believes that the Master she submitted to is going to remain exactly the same in every way forevermore. That is an unrealistic and unfair expectation. Masters change, sometimes in tiny ways like they decide they lose their taste for vanilla ice cream and have a lower tolerance for alcohol as the years pass. That doesn't have much direct effect on the slave, unless of course she loves vanilla ice cream and he forbids it since he no longer likes it. Other changes can be more difficult to adjust to such as a desire to do something different professionally, a shift in relationship styles such as mono to poly or poly to mono, they may become more or less introverted, a desire to be around family, anything really.
I think it's easy to minimize the actual impact various changes can have on the dynamic because they aren't thought about as M/s things. If it's not about sex, overt control, or bdsm in some manner then the implications of personal changes in one's master aren't immediately clear unless one has lived through them. Even for those who are adamant about how M/s is not about sex and play but the relationship structure they prefer, don't always think through the way the "vanilla" things about their masters influence their dynamic.
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