other people's kinks

I was reading the writings of a slave on fet who really enjoys humiliation. Now I can get down with some of that kind of play myself so the idea isn't completely foreign but the scope of things she talked about had me reading it and thinking she was nuts to be with someone who treated her that way.  I didn't think that she should not have obeyed b/c hey that's what you do, what I was thinking however was what a jerk her master came across as.

One story in particular jumped out at me that had me calling him all kinds of names. Long story short she recounted one of the times that he'd had her pee on herself in a store. Das doesn't have me ask permission to pee but I know some people who do and that in and of itself is no big deal to me. If he'd refused her bathroom request at home or at a kink event where they had clean up materials on hand, no problem. The thing I could not get past is he intentionally made her pee on herself (and therefore on the floor around her) in a store... someplace lots of people go, someplace where a worker has to stop whatever else they were doing and come clean up a bio hazard (as bodily fluids are rightfully treated) and other customers then had to step carefully around her in order to not step in it or slip on the newly wet floor. I can't work out in my brain the utter arrogance and complete disregard for others inherent in that.  How anyone finds it ok to do that is beyond me. I'm not even sure why it bothered me so much but it was one of those times that I made sure to tell Das thank you just for not being an ass.