M/s random rabble

We talked about M/s tonight, as we do, and I started thinking about what exactly defines it. Also what is that thing you feel when someone you come across someone who is dominant. 

It occurred to me that in M/s if you are high protocol from the beginning and down the road relax them it can feel like you've lost your dynamic. Conversely it can also feel like you have more of a dynamic than you actually do because all the bows and permissions are so much in play that you don't have to think about who you are together. None of that actually defines it for me though. What does is something I'm still figuring out. It is so often easier to exclude than include when I'm trying to work something through in my head. 

As to what is that elusive thing that makes me sit up and take notice of a dominant man (for me it doesn't bing  with women which I attribute to sexual orientation) I don't know what that is either. Once again I can tell if it's missing but I couldn't say what is missing. I do think that it is subjective though. I can bing on a guy that no one else gives a second glance to and someone else may bing on someone I take no note of. Maybe it's a pheromone thing.