Adventures in Emmieland

I'm giddy at my first person to person photoshop insertion. 

I remember a conversation with a friend who happens to have several male children. At the time one was in his mid teens and starting to date. She brought up the point that in telling him he should not rape she was giving him no credit for being a decent person. And you know I agree with her to a degree. If their conversation went something like "son you know you shouldn't rape girls, if she says no then everything stops"  Well hell if I were him I'd be pretty insulted. But what about conversations more along these lines... "son you know sexual activity has many areas that seem vague in the heat of the moment and because of sociaetial pressures peopel often agreed to things they don't actually want to do. You are not at fault for listening to what someone says to you and following through with it but if you learn to read body language your interactions will more likely be amazing and free from unforeseen fallout in most cases. I know you, you're an hon...

I've been in dress heaven, in fact I have plans to order more this weekend. As much as I'd like to regularly wear pants/shorts dresses are much easier, in fact they are easier than skirts too. I blame my now non existent waistline. Today I decided to post them all here for those playing at home and just so I can keep track of what is and isn't working for me. I have also been searching for apps to tell me what all I have in my yard. So far I've identified rhubarb, cherry trees and a few herbs along with various flowers like tulips and iris. Even though I saw a snake the other day i love where we live. Still trying to get a picture of the ever elusive chipmunks. I've gotten back into my french lessons so I'm off to do my daily mangling of the French language. :)    

I've gained some weight since last year, on the one hand that is a good thing because it shows I'm eating regularly. On the other hand I didn't start off small so I'm not more not small. As usual I'm going through changes trying to find clothes I like for the summer but overall I've been ok with my body. That said, I freaked the hell out the other day over a pic Das took of me because my legs looked huge to me. I like to think I'm not delusional, therefore I know I'm rather round but my expectations of my legs is for them to be slimmish. Other pictures taken over a day later show that most of the effect was bloating but damn. It's humbling that even when I think I'm good I'm still just as susceptible to body insecurities as the next person.

I'm wondering if college hook up culture has roots in backlash against women going or even being perceived as going to university only in order to find a husband. Not that hooking up never happened when that was the the standard goal but have women embraced hooking up as a way to announce their desire to enjoy their sexuality combined with disavowing the desire to seek a mate in order to be taken seriously as a student and potential employee?

Sometimes it's hard to not get annoyed when reading articles about issues that only seem to be an issue when they affect middle/upper class folks. I read something yesterday about how immigration laws in the states need changing b/c women who move from overseas with their techie husbands can't work. I believe they even said something like the women are playing tennis to alleviate the boredom of being relegated to being mere housewives. I have a lot of sympathy for anyone whose ability to chose their lifestyle is compromised but frankly the wives of Silicon Valley are hardly the people I think of first when I think of the serious need for immigration reform. Wives inability to work when in country accompanying their husbands is a long standing problem that while it inconveniences those with husbands in highly lucrative fields has a larger negative impact on those whose husbands are just starting out or simply in a job that is a good opportunity, won't support the family fo...

It's time to do something about the three strands of grey that seem to only appear right at the front of my head. If only they were tucked off to the side or in the back it wouldn't look like I was linty. Das mentioned purple when we were in the drug store so come Thursday I'll see if he's still down for that.  This weekend is a holiday here. Last year there were invites all over the place to celebrate with folks this year it doesn't seem like anyone is doing anything sadly. I want an excuse to buy a bathing suit.  I've been looking over my jewelry needs and man is it easy to overspend at a craft store. My defense is and will continue to be that I need it all! Who says a collar can't be a fashion accessory? Once I get it all set up and get my dresses I'm going to be all that and a bag of chips. Right now I'm just all that.  Waiting for sleep to overtake me, I feel it oh so slowly creeping up. I guess I need to step up my memorization of pr...

Sometimes I wonder how people come up with their ideas on what being a sub is. I read something today by a woman who used to identify as a sub but has decided it's not for her, which is cool but some of her reasons made me go huh. One was that no longer wanted to be hurt. Cool but no one has to be into pain to be a sub... She also mentioned no longer wanting to to be hurt by someone who doesn't love her and so on. As I read it I had empathy for her pain but didn't see it as a kink thing honestly. I don't see being a sub the same way I guess. What I saw was someone making choices to do things that went against her own self interests. That's not kinky that's the kind of thing we have all done somewhere in our lives for various reasons. Kink may have been the vehicle by which she betrayed herself but it wasn't the reason. And it will take getting to the reason to make sure it doesn't happen again.

I took advantage of the earlier warm temps and soft soil from last night's rain to putter in the garden out front this morning. Glad I did it then too since it's rapidly getting colder. Tomorrow is supposed to herald in a brief return to winter with spring coming back around wednesday. Woohoo it looks like the weather will be positively balmy for May two four. No plans yet for the holiday but I'm sure we will find someone doing something. There is a second mini garden on the side of the house but I haven't started on that yet because it looks like a lot of different stuff is growing there and I don't know what is a weed and what's not. Seems a combination of flowers and food.

It's been warmer the last few days and I've been loving it! I even started weeding the flowers in the front of the house the other day. This house has a lot of flowers, whoever planted them has my eternal gratitude b/c I love pretty! I've also been wearing dresses. They are so comfy and cute. It's funny how much I enjoy wearing dresses now when for years I hated them. Of course being forced to do something is likely to put you off it. In my case the no pants rule combined with my parents inability to allow me cute clothes that fit properly well, that doesn't make for a dresses love affair. It's very odd to think that I have a stepmother. I didn't call her for mother's day. I didn't even think of it so it wasn't a planned snub. I simply don't know the woman. This morning i've tidied the house, done a bit of mopping and wiping and dishes. Now resting before I overdo and have to be abed for the next few days. I want to fully roll aroun...

Why would people who not only athesis but also very anti religious ask for prayers? Seems kinda odd to me.