On my mind

I saw something recently that made my eyebrows shoot up. There was a post about a sick master who choose not to religiously adhere to suggested things that would encourage a speedier recovery which was posted by the slave who was concerned and frustrated. The responses given to the slave by a variety of people active in kink were generally supportive but what puzzled me was how many people encouraged the slave to take control of the master to get compliance. I don't know what if any action the slave in question took so I'm not at all judging that, I'm just surprised at the comments that leaned toward setting aside M/s to deal with the illness.

Since there was no indication of the master in this post having lost cognitive function I personally see no reason for such a reaction. It makes me think about when people say things about being M/s but putting is on the back burner when "life" getting in the way. A scenario such as the above is "life" but not in my estimation a reason to forgo the well established roles of master and slave. This isn't an area that I'm being naive about due to lack of personal experience, Das has been ill quite a bit and not followed what I originally thought as the best or recommended course of action. At those times I've asked exactly what if any intervention he wanted from me and then went about supporting his decisions. He's an intelligent adult well aware of the consequences of his actions and my role isn't to mother him or nag him into doing what I feel is right, it's to be there for him helping to make his desires attainable.  If he changes his mind then I jump on board with the new course of action.

I don't doubt the truly well meant intentions of those commenters I'm simply of the mindset that in times of challenging life events the most comfort is to be found in maintaining the dynamic rather than abandoning it.