Adventures in Emmieland

Time has flown by and it's been quite the year. At midnight we exchanged happy anniversaries and a few sweet words about how much we loved and appreciated each other.  I love that our first wedded year gets to be marked by our adventure of leaving TX and coming home to Toronto. This has been a year of changes with adjusting to the kidlet's absence to moving in with a friend for a while, extended job issues and now moving out of country. On a relationship level though it's been a much easier year than one might expect given outside events. We've had no major upheavals in who we are together and while some of our physical interactions have shifted to accommodate health concerns those transitions have gone quite smoothly. I have noticed that I feel less connected to the scene in a general way. While I maintain an interest in slave blogs and such in real life I just haven't felt bonded to a larger community in a while. Individuals on the other hand I feel quite the ...

Something I've noticed since I've been here is the men. The men are not as quick to step to you but they are more bluntly appreciative. I find this intriguing and refreshing. Although Das had told me that the southern chivalry I'm used to is not a staple of male-female interactions in Toronto so far this has not been my experience. Doors have been held open for me regularly and small niceties happen with enough frequency to make me think it's not coincidental. What I'm not sure of is if their has been something of a cultural shift or if it's personal.

Today I threw caution to the wind and participated on a Fet thread, I should really know better by now. The question was if one identified as a princess and what it means to you. I've discovered that princess' are roundly hated, lol.  Mind you I figured I was going to be in the minority since I proudly wear the princess tiara but even so it was enough to make me blink a few times to see the level of vitriol the very image a princess conjured for most people.  There was also an interesting unwillingness or inability to define a princess as anything but spoiled manipulative and vapid. I think Disney has given the princess a bad rap, lol.  When Das and I discussed my princessness it was with the understanding that a princess has no autonomy and while it is true that she is considered graceful, elegant, beautiful, and hopefully intelligent those are attributes cultivated at the king's behest to enhance the value of her as his property. Historically a princess was a kin...

Looking at groups on Fet today in the new area it seems to me that if there is a kink scene here it's not to be found online. That is even more applicable when looking for a local M/s scene.  As much as I'd enjoy meeting others with such a thing in common it doesn't seem likely as an intentional thing, more likely something we'd find out about newly made friends as time goes on. That may actually be a better way as it doesn't give an inflated sense of intimacy before we all actually know each other born of a shared relationship style. Not that such things aren't common ways to make friends, why else do people build their communities around their churches and find friends among their leisure activities after all.  Nothing to be done in any case but to wait and see.

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