Getting Stuck In a Box

I watched a beautiful pole dancing video on upworthy a few minutes ago and I liked it. I did notice something though, in the video while it was all about women embracing and expressing their sexuality I found it interesting that the song used was not a "sexy" or raunchy one and the moves were sensuous but not something you would often see in the club. It's like there is the acceptable version of the embraced sexuality which isn't the raw bump and grind kind. That would be going too far.

 Now I know that is not everyone's personal ideal for themselves but whenever I see the videos of how women are taking back their sexy it never seems to be included. It's always the low key dare I say non threatening version of sexy. Sexy can be slow, sensual, and low key but it can also be loud, messy, and off the hook. There is nothing wrong with embracing all kinds of sexuality as long as you are being true to yourself. In fact while we may lean more toward one style or other I'd wager most women have the capacity and the desire to indulge in the pantheon of sexual expressions depending on our moods.  I hope that we as women don't allow ourselves to get locked into what is appropriate in the way we show our desire for our partners, our comfort with ourselves or our delight in our sexy.  A christian friend of mine likes to say "don't judge me because I sin differently than you do" I think the same idea applies here.  The woman who likes to drop it like it's hot is no less empowered and in touch with her sexuality than the pole dancing teacher who dances to new age songs. If you look closely sometimes it's the same girl. ;)