Thinking about Stuff
I was talking to my ex today and brought up the infamous "affair". I finally had a chance to tell him how I felt about the whole thing both before and after which felt good. I wasn't even mad I think it was more of trying to be heard.
It's a delicate balance to talk about actions I know caused him pain while discussing how they also hurt me and how I got there. There was no maliciousness on either of our parts but intent doesn't eradicate pain. Sometimes it makes it easier to bear though.
I've wondered talking to him these days if we had been able to talk this way back then and be honest and say the things neither of us want to hear then act on it, would we have broken up? No one can say but I do think our odds would have been higher for staying together than they were. I'm just glad we both learned something and grew into better people.
It's a delicate balance to talk about actions I know caused him pain while discussing how they also hurt me and how I got there. There was no maliciousness on either of our parts but intent doesn't eradicate pain. Sometimes it makes it easier to bear though.
I've wondered talking to him these days if we had been able to talk this way back then and be honest and say the things neither of us want to hear then act on it, would we have broken up? No one can say but I do think our odds would have been higher for staying together than they were. I'm just glad we both learned something and grew into better people.
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