Reasonable Independence or Reasonable Self Care
I read something on Tumblr today that combined with an interaction with Das had me thinking.
The post was basically about how the writer had gotten to a point within their D/s relationship that something as simple as dressing for the weather wasn't something they gave thought to b/c the dom would handle it. Serious paraphrasing here.
When I went up to get dressed I asked my usual series of questions, do you have anything specific you want me to wear, do you prefer pants or a skirt/dress today, what look am I going for? About halfway up the steps I thought about that writing and asked Das if he thought I was pitiful for needing help getting dressed. He said no while looking at me like I'd lost my mind. There is a part of me that thinks hey I should just get dressed however I want and be done with it, that's what grown ups do. There is another part (the larger one actually) that realizes that within our dynamic him deciding either generally or specifically what I wear is perfectly appropriate and in fact such part of our lives I only question it when it comes to my attention by someone else either by a writing or in a conversation.
Lots of people love the new D/s M/s dynamics with all their new rules and strict adherence but I must say I like the way we are now better. We know each other better, struggles aren't a daily distraction and we've made our life perfect for us. I guess it's like wearing those comfy broken in jeans. New jeans are nice but they just don't compare to the ones that fit you like a glove.
The post was basically about how the writer had gotten to a point within their D/s relationship that something as simple as dressing for the weather wasn't something they gave thought to b/c the dom would handle it. Serious paraphrasing here.
When I went up to get dressed I asked my usual series of questions, do you have anything specific you want me to wear, do you prefer pants or a skirt/dress today, what look am I going for? About halfway up the steps I thought about that writing and asked Das if he thought I was pitiful for needing help getting dressed. He said no while looking at me like I'd lost my mind. There is a part of me that thinks hey I should just get dressed however I want and be done with it, that's what grown ups do. There is another part (the larger one actually) that realizes that within our dynamic him deciding either generally or specifically what I wear is perfectly appropriate and in fact such part of our lives I only question it when it comes to my attention by someone else either by a writing or in a conversation.
Lots of people love the new D/s M/s dynamics with all their new rules and strict adherence but I must say I like the way we are now better. We know each other better, struggles aren't a daily distraction and we've made our life perfect for us. I guess it's like wearing those comfy broken in jeans. New jeans are nice but they just don't compare to the ones that fit you like a glove.
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