Participation vs Exposure...where is the line drawn

"I don't force my kink on people" is something I hear/read often and the circumstances around it vary widely. It could be not demanding everyone you meet in every situation follow an intricate set of rituals or protocols that you'd prefer that have an obvious bdsm flavor or it could be not calling your master "sir" in a public place.  What interests me is the many ways people define what kink is and what constitutes forcing it on others. 

My personal idea of kink are s&m related activities. So if I see someone walking through the mall smacking their companion with a crop then yep I'd think they were being kinky.  On the other hand if I saw someone walking through the mall completely attired in leather or latex and an obvious collar I'd wonder if they were parked very close to the entrance and hope they have excellent AC  b/c it's been over 100F all week. Seriously I would assume they were goth or at least into goth fashions or maybe in the scene or possibly just someone who enjoys attracting attention. In none of the scenarios described above would I feel like anyone's kink is being forced on me. No one is forcing me to do anything except share space in the mall with other people whose clothing and behavior norms differed from mine but were still well within limits covered by legal jargon. 

I don't go out of my way to be offensive, in fact I am usually conciliatory but I am not long on patience with the delicate flowers mentality that decrees that everyone who in any way deviates from the "norm" should take great pains to placate everyone else lest their very presence cause offense. Maybe it's because I have a propensity for booty shorts and miniskirts in public places paired with an attitude of if you don't like it stop staring.  

The fact that I am in a male led dynamic, not kinky. The fact that even when we are in public I still show him the amount of deference he prefers also not kinky.  The fact that he'll wallop my ass for fun now that is kinky but that's not what we're doing at the mall.  Contrary to seems to be popular belief my calling him sir or even *gasp* master isn't going to stop the earth from spinning on it's axis or make anyone spontaneously combust.  You won't even need to go to confession just from overhearing such a thing. Being exposed to something even something you don't participate in or agree with is not tantamount to being forced into participation of it. If that were true I've been being forced into Pokemon tournaments for years, someone should call the law b/c that has got to be a bonafide torture method. I wonder if in an attempt to not offend so many of us end up watering down our own experiences and expressions unnecessarily for people who don't care or wouldn't be accepting no matter what.