perceptions

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It's interesting how 2 people can see and interpret the same events differently. Talking to Das this weekend we went over changes in our relationship and when/why we thought they were occurring. We agreed on the changes but our ideas of the impetuous were different enough that we had to discuss why we saw things the way we did. In the end we were able to see each other's pov.

He thought our relationship has undo most significant changes after we married. I thought they came after his ex left. We decided to split the difference. :) I guess any major life event brings changes, the key is approaching them in a mindful way and being open to what works.

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