Gifts

Last night I came across a discussion of the gift of submission on tumblr and nearly skipped over it. I am glad I didn't though because for once it actually included talking about dominance being a gift if submission is a gift. Now I don't adhere to the philosophy of submission being a gift but I appreciate that if it is then it stands to reason that so is dominance. I've never understood the whole "the submissive is really in control and has all the power and it's a gift to be treasured. If submission is all that what the hell do we even need dominants for?

In truth both parties have the power, calling a safeword or walking away isn't the sole purview of submissives. I think more needs to be talked about with dominants and acknowledging that they are equal and needed in order to fulfill the dynamic. Submission is great but lacking dominance it's not fulfilled. Same with dominance. We need to get away from one sided discussions on D/s and I think that what I read was a good step in the right direction.