Apologies

When feelings get hurt and misunderstanding happen who decides that one party is being unreasonable? Here it's Das but I'm not sure I am always on board with his assessments. I often feel I don't get the benefit of the doubt when my behavior is in question/it's my feelings that are hurt. Now he doesn't hold grudges like I do but still sometimes I'd find an actual acknowledgement more satisfying, than an "oh i misunderstood"  I guess I see a world of difference in i misunderstood and i misunderstood and am sorry i hurt you. Maybe it's a subtle difference but the sorry you were hurt part is not automatically understood to me. In fact without it being said it comes across to me as "I misunderstood so why are you acting all but hurt?" I am a sensitive person so maybe my reactions are a bit more extreme than others but I still think they are valid. Sigh I guess it's the best I'm getting.