A Slave by any Other Name
I have spent the last couple of days chilling out with Das and thinking about how crazy happy I am. It's a combination of bouncy giddiness and snuggly contentment. We haven't had any relationship altering moments or discussions just our normal day to day topic jumping mish mash of current events, theology, philosophy, humor, reminiscences, cars and vampires. He's done some work on the car for which I've been on hand to hold tools and move hoses and we've taken impromptu drives just because the weather is too nice to stay in the house. All the time we never stop laughing, he delights me and I entertain him. I find myself in turns mooning over him and acting silly just to bring a smile to his face. One thing we haven't been doing is attending any scene or lifestyle events. Frankly I find it nice, I feel more relaxed. It's not that I don't want to socialize with people from the local community it's just that I don't want to do it at dedicated events.
For a while now Das has been saying that he's been thinking about not using the term M/s to describe our relationship. At first I was concerned that it was because he wanted to change how we are together but I've come to understand that it's more about not feeling that it has the same meaning even as when I first learned about it which is way after he did. When I met him and began looking into it online things were pretty clear cut and they aren't anymore, master and slave are being used in ways that I can't comprehend whatsoever why someone would want to use those words in the circumstances they are being used in. I am finding that I have to do so much explaining of our dynamic even among others using the M/s label because of of diverse the usage has gotten that it's no longer beneficial as a meaningful shorthand. Although I have been known to play fast and loose with language there is a point where common understanding must prevail. For a while we thought about what term we would use and we've come to the conclusion that we don't need one. When he holds me and say "mine" that says everything that needs to be said.
For a while now Das has been saying that he's been thinking about not using the term M/s to describe our relationship. At first I was concerned that it was because he wanted to change how we are together but I've come to understand that it's more about not feeling that it has the same meaning even as when I first learned about it which is way after he did. When I met him and began looking into it online things were pretty clear cut and they aren't anymore, master and slave are being used in ways that I can't comprehend whatsoever why someone would want to use those words in the circumstances they are being used in. I am finding that I have to do so much explaining of our dynamic even among others using the M/s label because of of diverse the usage has gotten that it's no longer beneficial as a meaningful shorthand. Although I have been known to play fast and loose with language there is a point where common understanding must prevail. For a while we thought about what term we would use and we've come to the conclusion that we don't need one. When he holds me and say "mine" that says everything that needs to be said.
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