Folks are Funny
it never ceases to amaze me just how odd people seem to think it is that I like not being in charge in my relationship. During my visit the topic came up a few times and each time I was met with incredulous looks and numerous questions that seriously made no sense to me. Why do people ask "what if he's wrong or makes a bad decision?" Everyone at some point is wrong and makes a bad decision, if I were in charge the only difference would be that it would be me making them and taking the responsibility for fixing them, not that none would ever be made so in light of that does it really matter?
What really tripped me out was when this came up with a bunch of older (early to late 60 yr olds) married couples who are quite into church, old time country bible thumping church too. Yet even among them the idea of a man leading the relationship was being tempered with "I want a smart woman who can think for herself" "Don't want a weak woman" "Don't want someone who just agrees with me" and so on. Funny how the verses that talk about the man being the head of the house seem to have been forgotten or pushed to the side, lol. Nowhere in what I said did I mention becoming stupid I simply expressed a desire to not be the leader. Well someone needs to lead and I prefer it not be me so... You'd think with all the scriptures that were being thrown around in that conversation it would have been a perfectly acceptable viewpoint but surprisingly it wasn't.
What tickles me is that most of the couples I've seen in my life someone does take the lead. Even if they take it in different areas there is someone who has the final say. I wonder if people actually don't realize that they are indeed doing that or if it's ok in their minds to do but not to actually say. People confuse me, maybe that's why I'm an introvert.
What really tripped me out was when this came up with a bunch of older (early to late 60 yr olds) married couples who are quite into church, old time country bible thumping church too. Yet even among them the idea of a man leading the relationship was being tempered with "I want a smart woman who can think for herself" "Don't want a weak woman" "Don't want someone who just agrees with me" and so on. Funny how the verses that talk about the man being the head of the house seem to have been forgotten or pushed to the side, lol. Nowhere in what I said did I mention becoming stupid I simply expressed a desire to not be the leader. Well someone needs to lead and I prefer it not be me so... You'd think with all the scriptures that were being thrown around in that conversation it would have been a perfectly acceptable viewpoint but surprisingly it wasn't.
What tickles me is that most of the couples I've seen in my life someone does take the lead. Even if they take it in different areas there is someone who has the final say. I wonder if people actually don't realize that they are indeed doing that or if it's ok in their minds to do but not to actually say. People confuse me, maybe that's why I'm an introvert.
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