He's so selfish and I love it

Funny how bad a rap selfishness gets in the bossy-types. I guess it's due to the tendency of people to polarize so there is the thought that if there is selfishness then there can't simultaneously be care. It probably makes it easy to think of things that way but it's not realistic. I dare say even the most seemingly jerk-face narcissistic bastards have their sweet sides.

I know there are times when I want to roll my eyes in frustration at the endless demands Das makes on my time and attention. He wants coffee and for me to watch weird music videos at the most inopportune times. He interrupts me when I get the the best part of a novel and has me get up to do something when I just get situated perfectly comfy. It makes me annoyed, irritable, pouty, and immensely satisfied when I do what I'm told, act like I have some sense and serve him properly. I know he gets a jolt of sadistic pleasure watching me struggle and he has no problems being selfish. The man fully thinks the world revolves around him and it's not like I try to dissuade him of this notion b/c I do too.  

The thing is that just b/c he does those things doesn't negate the other things he also does. The way he buys me chocolate and various other sweets just because. He cut the entire lawn on Saturday b/c I was overwhelmed with packing even though we usually split that chore. He downloads music I like that he can't stand just to see me smile. He lets me sleep in because he says I need all the rest I can get. He will often do my chores when I'm too tired to do them before I get around to asking for help. Everytime I turn around he's not just telling me how much I'm loved, he's showing me.