A time to speak and a time to remain silent

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I have often heard it said that people should let bygones be bygones. In fact I often hear it said to me b/c I am not known for embracing people who I feel have wronged me in the past no matter how long ago that past was. Something about that has always bothered me and I think a big part of it is the idea that someone can treat me like crap and I'm always the one who is supposed to take the high road no matter what. It is somehow unbecoming if I don't speak well of them or don't want to interact with them but their behavior is excused or minimized. I have a problem with that.

This morning I read a quote by Anne Lamott  “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.”  
That sums it up quite well to me, if you don't like the very true thing I have to say about you then it's on you for having behaved like a jerk. If it is a part of my story I'm not going to stop telling it b/c you don't like the way you are presented. 

 I don't go out of my way to say negative things about people, in fact it can be said that I go through contortions to say nice things even when they aren't warranted. I need to find balance because editing my own story so as not to cause distress to those who have caused me pain is rather ludicrous really.  

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