Just wondering...

I was reading a blog post about camping tonight and in the post the author revealed that she is very adverse to camping and after being asked repeatedly to accompany her boyfriend and refusing without really explaining she finally laid out the roots of her feelings to her boyfriend. I noticed in the comments someone was quick to say that he was pushing her boundaries, call him a "whiny man child" and even say that if he was going to push her on this issue then he could not be trusted to respect her on other issues. There was an immediate string of agreements and only one dissenting opinion.

It seems shameful to me that we as women and as a society are so quick to brand men as dangerous and call them out of their names based on so little. The poster told one story about her interaction with her boyfriend which in all honesty could be looked at in several different ways. I couldn't assess his character as a whole because there just wasn't enough to go on and yet people were so ready to brand him as manipulative, probably violent and definitely immature. The thing is these same people were simultaneously telling the poster that she was fine and great and handling things well when in fact just reading that one interaction she could be seen as evasive, dismissive, manipulative, untruthful, and intractable. No one was judging her harshly at all although it would be possible to do so. Is it because she  is a woman, is it because it's her blog, is it because they have likely read multiple posts of hers so they have a fair overview of her personality based on her writing. None of those are advantages the boyfriend has and yet only one person was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt. Why? And what do we do about it?