NO, rights and rules

The right to say no as a slave is an argument that never seems to get old. It seems so often to me that people are all for it until something happens, possibly not even to them, that sets off their own issues and suddenly having a cnc type dynamic is terrible especially if the master ever takes it seriously and doesn't give credence to a no that's been issued so goes about whatever he planned in the first place.

I saw someone ask something to the effect of if he wanted sex that would hurt you would you still say I have no right to say no?  Umm yes, been there done that and it's not unthinkable that it will happen again. I don't think of it so much as given up the right to say no as having agreed to a dynamic with him that I cannot say no and expect that to automatically be respected. I've said no to plenty of stuff and our basic belief if he breaks me then he have to fix me.

I find it much easier to look at at from that standpoint because I know how seriously he takes responsibility. Maybe that's where the difference is for some people, they don't look at it overall just focus on one parties rights and not the responsibility of the other party. it's a balancing act for us because while he is perfectly happy to ignore a no from me there are things he has decided are not important enough, or are too harmful or simply things he doesn't want to spend the effort on to make sure I'm either not broken or fixed afterward that he doesn't do. I'm not saying he never will b/c who knows what he might do later, just that as it stands right now he isn't interested or interested enough to balance out the negative on them.