Trust is a many splendored thing
Das and I were talking about trust today. I had a friend tell me years ago (she repeated it several times when I needed to hear it actually) that trust is a decision and over our years together I have certainly put that into action.
We have both had incidents in which the apparent evidence pointed one way and what was said pointed another so at an impasse we had to decide to trust in each other. I am glad that we did. One thing about both of us is that when it comes to people we care about we err on the side of being overtrusting which isn't a bad thing in my estimation. I'd rather that than not trust enough. It does leave one open to being taken advantage of but life is about risks so I say why not live with abandon.
As we mulled over our at times rocky past we both expressed a gratefulness for the things we've been through. There isn't a feeling of foreboding about what the future may bring b/c we have already been through enough to know that we can get through things together and come out closer. It's a good feeling.
My trust in him isn't built on his infallibility or the thought that he always does exactly what is the best and highest for me specifically in every given situation. It's not even built on his consistency because in many ways he's rather unpredictable. In the ways that matter to me though, he's a rock. He leads and if I start to falter he drags me along, he does what he feels is best overall whether that be for him, for the dynamic, for me I can't always say but he makes a decision and moves forward with it and I know that if that decision blows up on him then he'll clean up the debris and it's back to the drawing board. I know him and I know that he is doing what he loves. It's all those things and things I'm not even sure how to articulate that I trust.
We have both had incidents in which the apparent evidence pointed one way and what was said pointed another so at an impasse we had to decide to trust in each other. I am glad that we did. One thing about both of us is that when it comes to people we care about we err on the side of being overtrusting which isn't a bad thing in my estimation. I'd rather that than not trust enough. It does leave one open to being taken advantage of but life is about risks so I say why not live with abandon.
As we mulled over our at times rocky past we both expressed a gratefulness for the things we've been through. There isn't a feeling of foreboding about what the future may bring b/c we have already been through enough to know that we can get through things together and come out closer. It's a good feeling.
My trust in him isn't built on his infallibility or the thought that he always does exactly what is the best and highest for me specifically in every given situation. It's not even built on his consistency because in many ways he's rather unpredictable. In the ways that matter to me though, he's a rock. He leads and if I start to falter he drags me along, he does what he feels is best overall whether that be for him, for the dynamic, for me I can't always say but he makes a decision and moves forward with it and I know that if that decision blows up on him then he'll clean up the debris and it's back to the drawing board. I know him and I know that he is doing what he loves. It's all those things and things I'm not even sure how to articulate that I trust.
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