Does sexual bottoming equal submitting?

We were talking about sex yesterday and Das mentioned that he had known a few women who absolutely hated everything about the man being in control during sex and without even thinking about it I said then they really shouldn't be having sex with men. He laughed and pointed out what I had just said. 

I suppose like with everything else my own experiences color my perceptions and ideas but I don't see how anyone can realistically deny that there are some basic differences between men and women and during heterosexual P in V sex men are the one with more control. They are bigger, stronger and setting the pace.  Generally I agree with the sentiment that there are no submissive actions only intentions but being penetrated is the exemption for me, I find it inherently submissive. I have been the penetrator on a few occasions and while I didn't get the giddy power rush that I understand some women get when donning a cock it was a different experience. For that time I was in charge of my partner's pleasure, she was very much at my mercy even though in general we were on equal footing in that neither of us submitted to the other in our daily lives or even in other sex acts. It was specific to penetration.  My experience of sex as a woman is receptive which is a perfect foil for the penetrative nature of a man. 

I am not sure how this would play out for a man who enjoys being penetrated, if he would feel like he were submitting in that moment or not. I'm not even sure other women feel the same way I do.  a lot to mull over.