Irony... it's a thing :)
Ugg, whoever invented sinus infections should be run through with a rusty sword, not that I'm prone to violence or anything. I have seriously got to get out of this town I think I have become allergic to nature. Everytime I leave the house I end up in a pitiful state. Life in a hermetically sealed bubble is starting to sound better and better...
Yesterday I had a good laugh. I know someone who complains a lot about people over generalizing transgendered people. It's a valid complaint. They want to be seen as themselves not the spokesperson for all transgendered people or have people think they know them simple b/c they have known one or two transgendered people before so therefore they must know all about them... That shit is legit annoying. The ironic thing I came across was they had posted something saying that that was how hispanic people do it with the explanation that that they have a few hispanic friends whose families did it that way therefore...
I think it's way easier than we realize to fall into the very things we don't want people doing to us. In our heads we don't think it's the same when we do it, after all we have evidence, we know what we are talking about, we are being cute, or whatever million and one justifications/explanations we come up with. In the end it's all the same though. We are deciding that through the actions of a few (or even many!) that we know the actions of all of any group which will never be true. People are unpredictable. A lot of the beauty of getting to know someone is seeing where they do and don't fit your preconceived notions but to do that you have to be willing to let them go. Preferably without a fight. I've found that people don't generally welcome expressions of disbelief over statements of who they actually are vs who someone else believes them to be. It may be amusing for a minute or two but it quickly loses it's luster and moves from the land of stammering shock (i never would have guessed!) into the land of blatant disrespect(you!? no way, you can't be...). We have to be careful because it's way to easy to be that guy.
Yesterday I had a good laugh. I know someone who complains a lot about people over generalizing transgendered people. It's a valid complaint. They want to be seen as themselves not the spokesperson for all transgendered people or have people think they know them simple b/c they have known one or two transgendered people before so therefore they must know all about them... That shit is legit annoying. The ironic thing I came across was they had posted something saying that that was how hispanic people do it with the explanation that that they have a few hispanic friends whose families did it that way therefore...
I think it's way easier than we realize to fall into the very things we don't want people doing to us. In our heads we don't think it's the same when we do it, after all we have evidence, we know what we are talking about, we are being cute, or whatever million and one justifications/explanations we come up with. In the end it's all the same though. We are deciding that through the actions of a few (or even many!) that we know the actions of all of any group which will never be true. People are unpredictable. A lot of the beauty of getting to know someone is seeing where they do and don't fit your preconceived notions but to do that you have to be willing to let them go. Preferably without a fight. I've found that people don't generally welcome expressions of disbelief over statements of who they actually are vs who someone else believes them to be. It may be amusing for a minute or two but it quickly loses it's luster and moves from the land of stammering shock (i never would have guessed!) into the land of blatant disrespect(you!? no way, you can't be...). We have to be careful because it's way to easy to be that guy.
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